Coping with the Loss of a Pet
Losing a pet can feel just as painful as losing a person.
For many of us, our animals are family, constant companions through life’s quiet and joyful moments. When they’re gone, the absence can be deep and disorienting.
There’s no right way to grieve, and no timeline you need to follow. But if you’ve recently said goodbye to a beloved pet, here are some gentle thoughts that may help you navigate the days ahead.
1. Allow Yourself to Grieve
Grief for a pet is real and valid. Whether your companion had four paws, feathers, or scales, they held a place in your life and heart.
Let yourself feel what you feel. Sadness, guilt, relief, numbness, anger, all of these are normal. Try not to judge your emotions or compare them to anyone else’s experience.
You loved them. That’s what matters.
2. Remember the Routines
One of the hardest parts of pet loss is the disruption of daily rituals, the morning walks, the feeding times, the greetings at the door.
It may help to:
– Light a candle at their usual mealtime
– Go for a walk in their favourite place
– Leave their collar, bed, or bowl in place until you’re ready to move it
These small acts of honouring can soften the silence they leave behind.
3. Create a Personal Tribute
Celebrating their life can be healing. Here are some meaningful ways people choose to remember their pets:
– Write a letter to them.
– Create a photo album or memory box.
– Plant something in their memory – a tree, wildflowers, or a pot of herbs.
– Donate to an animal charity in their name.
– Hold a small ceremony with family or friends.
You don’t have to make it formal. Just for you.
4. Talk to Others Who Understand
Not everyone will understand how deeply a pet’s death can affect you, but some people do. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or an online support group, connecting with someone who gets it can ease the sense of isolation.
If you feel overwhelmed, pet bereavement services like the Blue Cross Pet Bereavement Support Service or Cats Protection Paws to Listen offer trained listeners.
5. Consider a Natural Goodbye
If you’re looking for a way to lay your pet to rest, a natural setting may feel fitting. Some people choose to bury ashes in their garden or scatter them during a quiet walk.
Always check local regulations and consider what’s meaningful to you, whether that’s a peaceful outdoor moment or a private space in your home.
At our natural burial grounds in England and Wales, you’re welcome to have your pet’s ashes buried with you, if you choose to keep them until the time comes. At our Pembrokeshire natural burial we are able to offer pet natural burials, You can choose to have a pet burial on its own or as part of a pre-purchase beside a natural burial plot.
Grief is the Price of Love
The depth of your grief reflects the depth of your bond. Pets give us unconditional love, comfort and companionship, letting go is never easy.
Take your time. Be kind to yourself. And know that their love, and the life you shared, leaves a lasting imprint.
If you’re exploring ways to honour someone special, human or animal, through a natural, peaceful goodbye, we’re here to help.
