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Home funeral workshops in Oxfordshire

3/10/2014

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Our friend and celebrant Claire Turnham is hosting a number of workshops in October (24th, 25th, 26th, 27th, 30th and 31st) about home funerals.

There is something for everyone including introductory and more advanced options. There are also opportunities to gather together for a shared dinner and film evening or attend a Death Cafe as part of the Kicking the Bucket Festival. If you would like further information please call her on 07881 641583/01865 362984.

To register please send an email to claire@onlywithlove.co.uk and Claire will send you details for payment. As she is holding the workshops in a family home there are limited places and we advise registering as soon as possible to secure a place.

www.onlywithlove.co.uk


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Sincerity at a funeral

5/3/2014

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It was watching Roisin Conaty on Room 101 recently that brought my attention to the regularity of some sayings we use at important times in our lives.

What Roisin wanted axed were greetings cards with writing already inside them – you know the ones, we’ve all had them. Inside are printed words to convey sentiments for special occasions, written in such a lovely, loopy italic pink font (also with too many adjectives). Ah, those cards!

Listening intently, I couldn’t help but think these notions are verbal too. We find ourselves repeating clichés at such times, whether that’s ‘get well soon’ or ‘best wishes on your birthday’. Or, concerning our line of work, ‘I’m sorry for your loss’ or ‘he’s gone to a better place’.

Really? Do we really know that they have? No we don’t.

The question I’m trying to raise is: does the over use of a phrase dilute its sincerity? And how do we avoid hackneyed remarks? In the case of a greetings card I think it’s fairly simple – write it yourself. For a funeral however, it will take more thought.

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This picture is a sign a family pinned up at the entrance to one of our burial grounds before the funeral. I think it may have taken some guests by surprise, but then I think it’s quietly brilliant too. It asks that guests leave any pretence and prepared words at the door; it’s only you from here on in. It’s like a news reporter’s auto-cue failing, or a footballer forgetting his lucky boots. There’s nothing to rely on.

What it really does is make you think. What do you want to say? How have you been feeling? And these are really what people want to hear. Leave the formalities to the FD’s. Funerals are a time for sincerity and for words from the heart. There won’t be another one.

But am I being impractical? For a guest at a funeral it can be very hard to know what to say and do, when to approach the family, and how to say goodbye. A small remark lets those grieving know you’re there.


In theory, it would be lovely for everyone to have their moment with the family to pass on their condolences, but sometimes there are time constraints or the timing doesn't feel right. Everyone has their own way of showing sincerity, and we'd love to hear what poignant moments you've had and what you think about the matter.

Please leave your comments below.
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Family led funerals

8/10/2013

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Please call us if you would like to ask a question about family led funerals. We are very experienced in helping those who decide that they don't need the assistance of a funeral director.

There is some helpful  information here too. Good Funeral Guide - Do it all yourself.



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  • Home
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  • Locations
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    • The Funeral Service
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